Education, Gentle, Giveaway, love, raffle, Things we do

2017 End of Summer Soirée!

Let’s have a party!! We have SO MANY reasons to celebrate: >>we’ve hit 2000 (2000!?) members in our closed group, Gentle Parenting of WNY >>we’re coming up on our 3 year anniversary >>it’s the end of Summer (that’s a reason to celebrate, right?) We’ll have some games set up for the kids, you can do… Read More 2017 End of Summer Soirée!

Things we do, travel

Top 5 Travel Must-Haves (for our family)

*This post contains affiliate links. I wouldn’t say we travel a ton… but we do get around a bit. Since Danny was born last August we’ve been to Disney World and Tampa, Boston, Niagara Falls (this one feels like a cheat…is it really traveling when it’s only 45 minutes away? It is a huge tourist… Read More Top 5 Travel Must-Haves (for our family)

Behavior Analysis, Development, Education, Gentle, love, reasonable expectations, Reinforcement, respectful parenting, Uncategorized

How We Avoid Punishing Our Children

I often see comments in gentle parenting boards asking, “If you don’t punish, what do you do?” Or, “There are definitely circumstances where punishments are necessary, right?” As a BCBA (Board Certified Behavior Analyst), I frequently have to hold back from defining the term ‘punishment’ because I know that’s not exactly what folks mean. I… Read More How We Avoid Punishing Our Children

Development, Gentle, love, punishment, reasonable expectations, respectful parenting, spanking

Please don’t spank your child.

Please don’t spank your child. “But if I don’t spank them, they will grow up to be entitled brats.” Everything you do as a parent will impact your children. Whether you spank or not does not have anything to do with your child growing up to feel entitled. It will, however, impact the way they… Read More Please don’t spank your child.

Gentle, respectful parenting

Give Your Energy to the Behavior You Want to See

A friend of mine, who also happens to be a Marriage and Family Counselor and BCBA, often gave what I considered a fantastic speech during trainings we used to do together.  He would ask our audience during which scenario more energy was being displayed.  Then he would dramatically shout something like the following: “What are… Read More Give Your Energy to the Behavior You Want to See

Uncategorized

Who benefits from ‘time-out?’

You. You (the parent/caregiver) benefit from sending a child to time out. You’re the only one who does. Let’s face it, it gives you a reprieve from whatever ‘bad’ behavior they were engaging in… a chance to clean up the huge mess made with the toilet paper and shaving cream.  But don’t think it’s actually… Read More Who benefits from ‘time-out?’

reasonable expectations, spirit

How I keep my cool (when things are getting ruined)

One night, when I was about 14, I was babysitting a boy who lived near my house. We were tossing a bag of marshmallows back and forth between the two of us, just for fun, and he started to throw them harder each time.  I kept warning him, telling him to take it easy, before we… Read More How I keep my cool (when things are getting ruined)