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How We Avoid Punishing Our Children

I often see comments in gentle parenting boards asking, “If you don’t punish, what do you do?” Or, “There are definitely circumstances where punishments are necessary, right?” As a BCBA (Board Certified Behavior Analyst), I frequently have to hold back from defining the term ‘punishment’ because I know that’s not exactly what folks mean. I… Read More How We Avoid Punishing Our Children

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Give Your Energy to the Behavior You Want to See

A friend of mine, who also happens to be a Marriage and Family Counselor and BCBA, often gave what I considered a fantastic speech during trainings we used to do together. ┬áHe would ask our audience during which scenario more energy was being displayed. ┬áThen he would dramatically shout something like the following: “What are… Read More Give Your Energy to the Behavior You Want to See