Development, Education, Gentle, manners, reasonable expectations

Community Chat: SHARING

An interesting post about sharing was posted in the Facebook group not too long ago, and following it was a fantastic conversation on sharing and how some of our members handle this often-tricky topic. This is the shared post, written by Alanya Kolberg: MY CHILD IS NOT REQUIRED TO SHARE WITH YOURS. As soon as… Read More Community Chat: SHARING

Behavior Analysis, Development, Education, Gentle, love, reasonable expectations, Reinforcement, respectful parenting, Uncategorized

How We Avoid Punishing Our Children

I often see comments in gentle parenting boards asking, “If you don’t punish, what do you do?” Or, “There are definitely circumstances where punishments are necessary, right?” As a BCBA (Board Certified Behavior Analyst), I frequently have to hold back from defining the term ‘punishment’ because I know that’s not exactly what folks mean. I… Read More How We Avoid Punishing Our Children

Development, Gentle, love, punishment, reasonable expectations, respectful parenting, spanking

Please don’t spank your child.

Please don’t spank your child. “But if I don’t spank them, they will grow up to be entitled brats.” Everything you do as a parent will impact your children. Whether you spank or not does not have anything to do with your child growing up to feel entitled. It will, however, impact the way they… Read More Please don’t spank your child.

Gentle, love, reasonable expectations, respectful parenting, Uncategorized

Connection is KEY (also…free printable!)

My 3-year-old daughter stood up from the potty and slowly started peeling one square of toilet paper away from the roll. The baby was fussing in the other room and I knew he wanted to eat. Ohmygosh hurry up! I shouted in my mind. She was tired, and no one in the house had been… Read More Connection is KEY (also…free printable!)

Development, Gentle, manners, reasonable expectations, respectful parenting

Instead of “Say you’re sorry”

Forcing a child to say sorry is not a good way to encourage authenticity.… Read More Instead of “Say you’re sorry”

reasonable expectations, spirit

How I keep my cool (when things are getting ruined)

One night, when I was about 14, I was babysitting a boy who lived near my house. We were tossing a bag of marshmallows back and forth between the two of us, just for fun, and he started to throw them harder each time.  I kept warning him, telling him to take it easy, before we… Read More How I keep my cool (when things are getting ruined)