Development, Gentle, love, respectful parenting, sleep

Our Family Bed

If you had asked me 6 years ago my thoughts on children sleeping in their parents’ bed I would have scoffed and said something like, “my children will be sleeping in their own beds…” And then I would have made or thought some remark about enmeshed families. I’m pretty ashamed of that now. And I’m… Read More Our Family Bed

Education, Gentle, Giveaway, love, raffle, Things we do

2017 End of Summer Soirée!

Let’s have a party!! We have SO MANY reasons to celebrate: >>we’ve hit 2000 (2000!?) members in our closed group, Gentle Parenting of WNY >>we’re coming up on our 3 year anniversary >>it’s the end of Summer (that’s a reason to celebrate, right?) We’ll have some games set up for the kids, you can do… Read More 2017 End of Summer Soirée!

Behavior Analysis, Development, Education, Gentle, love, reasonable expectations, Reinforcement, respectful parenting, Uncategorized

How We Avoid Punishing Our Children

I often see comments in gentle parenting boards asking, “If you don’t punish, what do you do?” Or, “There are definitely circumstances where punishments are necessary, right?” As a BCBA (Board Certified Behavior Analyst), I frequently have to hold back from defining the term ‘punishment’ because I know that’s not exactly what folks mean. I… Read More How We Avoid Punishing Our Children

Development, Gentle, love, punishment, reasonable expectations, respectful parenting, spanking

Please don’t spank your child.

Please don’t spank your child. “But if I don’t spank them, they will grow up to be entitled brats.” Everything you do as a parent will impact your children. Whether you spank or not does not have anything to do with your child growing up to feel entitled. It will, however, impact the way they… Read More Please don’t spank your child.

Gentle, love, reasonable expectations, respectful parenting, Uncategorized

Connection is KEY (also…free printable!)

My 3-year-old daughter stood up from the potty and slowly started peeling one square of toilet paper away from the roll. The baby was fussing in the other room and I knew he wanted to eat. Ohmygosh hurry up! I shouted in my mind. She was tired, and no one in the house had been… Read More Connection is KEY (also…free printable!)

Eulogy, love, Mother, remembrance

What is a Mother? *In remembrance of MaryAnn Mather, 1929-2015*

I’ve been blessed to have a number of incredible role models in my life, one being my Grandmother, MaryAnn.  We called her Grandma Mares, since Mares was my Grandfather’s nickname for her.  Grandma Mares recently passed away on July 20th, 2015, after a long and incredibly challenging battle with Alzheimer’s.  She was the paragon of… Read More What is a Mother? *In remembrance of MaryAnn Mather, 1929-2015*